What is it about a parent that focuses on one child to meet their needs, especially in their elderly years? Why do they single out on that one child as the chosen one. I asked my mother, one time, what would she do without me or my husband if something happened to us. She stated she did not know. I have two other siblings who are willing to help, but would rather choose me. It gets tiring to always place boundaries and distancing myself from her constant wants and needs to be the "CHOSEN ONE" Why can't she accept that I do not want the responsibility nor will I accept the responsibility. She is so ignorantly relentless in her quest to reel me back in to her life of wants and needs. What will it take to get her to accept other willing help and stop trying to rely on me solely?