I have lived and worked overseas for the past few years and just got back earlier this year, and have since then had the responsibility/task of taking care of my grandma thrust upon me. She's on my dad's side--and my dad passed away a few years ago and her husband a couple years ago as well. Her daughter (my aunt) lives out of state and is supportive, but my grandma still is mentally there and is extremely stubborn so won't entertain the idea of an assisted living community. However, she's developed macular in one (or both?) eyes and should not be driving. She also has difficulty reading and problems with her hearing. I'm working two jobs and working on my Master's degree. I feel selfish wanting to keep my time off as time off rather than driving her to wherever she needs to go...and I'm frustrated that this is somehow my "problem" now that I'm home. I have a brother who lives about 30 minutes away, but he says it's my responsibility now because he did it when I was away. She's very active at her church (2 minutes from her house) and has a sister nearby, but her stubbornness makes her nearly refuse to ask them to drive her around. I can feel myself withdrawing and growing more resentful with all of this...but then I feel like a huge jerk for not being more willing to help out my grandma.