I haven't been on here in a while, so I apologize. I am at wits end. I live with my 84 year old mother whose is not in bad health but has fallen a couple of times and doesn't move around as much. She can do pretty much everything except drive around and heavy house work, etc. I have 2 sisters and 3 brothers but it seems like I am the one that has to do everything. I my self am diabled from 3 back surgeries and Fibromyalgia. My mother has always been the type wher everthing revolves around her & when she wants something done, she wants it right away. I sometimes feel like I'm supposed to punch a time clock at home. When I had my 2nd back surgery, my sister stayed for 1 night, after that I was on my own. My mother has never tried to understand my problems. Monday, I counld not sleep until about 5am, so I left her a note that I didn't know what time I'd wake up & to leave my door closed. She came in at noon, and shined a fashlight at me just to see if "I was still breathing". I got upset (of course) so she told me I was doing elderly abuse. If I tried to talk to my older sister but she got upset with me because I wasn't understanding that she just had surgery (a hysterectomy) a week before and couldn't deal with this. I pointed out that I've had 4 surgeries. (With no help & still left to take care of my mother) I feel guilty for sometimes wanting to walk away & let the rest take care of her. But I don't make enough to live on my own & the house is mine also. Am I being unreasonable ? Or do I need to see a counselor before I totally lose it ?