Why do I feel guilty when I take time for myself?
Mom (93) has a care giver but expects me to be there several times a week. Mom and Dad(96) live in a life care community. She is in a villa which is 2000 sq ft and independent living. He is now in the nursing home. He has macular degeneration and Parkinsons ( confined to wheel chair). Mom has no mobility and can walk with difficulty using a walker . She has a caregiver come twice a day to help her dress, bathe and to serve her meals. They are near each other and can visit for short periods on a regular basis. Mom is resentful that I don't wait on her more even though I get called to fill in on Sundays ( caregiver's day off) and holidays( caregiver off). I have been doing this for 9 years and I am not getting any younger(62). I want my time to myself and I feel very guilty ( with my mother's help) when I am not available to wait on her at meal time. I am starting to make myself less available and would like Mom to move to the assisted living in her life care community where meals are provided. She would still be very near my Dad. She refuses!