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My mom is in an assistant living facility and also on hospice for a month. Now she wants myself or my sister to stay with her 24/7 she says she dying and she feels sick. The doctors and nurses say she fine nothing wrong . She has bad anxiety. Why do I feel so guilty and mad at her when I have to leave and she begging me to stay I'm trying to be patient but it hard . Is this normal for her to act that way and is it normal for me to feel guilty and stressed to the point I can't sleep she makes me feel so bad. I know its not fun for her either.

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Dear Keyka,

I'm so sorry. There is a lot on you right now. I know your mom is afraid and wants to have her daughters present 24/7 but that is not realistic either. I'm not sure if you can get other family members or friends or even hospice staff to sit with her when you are not there. Its important to find the right balance and give yourself a chance to rest. I know its hard. Trying every day to do what our parents want yet feeling very stressed as well. I hope you can talk more with hospice staff about different solutions and options that can help you find some peace.
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PJDFtC,
I'm sorry. I didn't realize that your mother had recently passed away. I recall your previous post about her.
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My mother recently passed away, and one thing that happened within the last month was that her anxiety level rose significantly. Our Hospice nurse was very helpful, and we ended up giving Mom a low dose of anti-anxiety medicine. This didn't "drug" her out of it; it helped her cope with a common development as her brain was getting less oxygen and her body was declining. It really helped her rest and begin the process of letting go. Talk to your Hospice support team; they can really help you. And take care.
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I definitely will be here till the end thank you for your support
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I agree with BarbBrooklyn. Whether the staff says she is fine or not, she has a condition she will most likely die from in the next few months. I think that would be enough to worry most of us!

Do discuss this with Hospice. They can help lessen her anxiety.

I can imagine how hard this is on you! Please don't stop visiting, but try to help her feel more calm, so you can feel less upset, too.
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I would call the hospice provider and tell them how agitated your mom has become.

She's on hospice. She may not be actively dying, but she must be scared and anxious. There are meds that can help with that.

Will she be comforted by visits from the hospice Chaplain? Look into that as well.
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