I'm starting feel a little guilty that I want my mother to go live with my sister or at least visit for an extended period of time to give us both a break from one another. I have lived with my mother my whole entire life so I have been the submissive child always trying to respect my mother even through the upbringing of my own children which she helped raise while I served in the military. My mother was my best friend, my road dog, until 11 yrs ago when she seemed to fall apart all at once being diagnosed with osteoarthritis, high blood pressure and COPD and she hasn't been the same since. The only times she puts in efforts to get out of the house are for her doctor's appointment and the beginning of the month. She's starting to hide things from herself and when she can't find them she's incenuating that someone (there's only me and my daughter) has messed with her stuff (that upsets me) or if my daughter or I don't follow something that she may have suggested she will get highly upset and not talk to us for days. She's always annoyed with me about something, anything and I am at the point that I don't care. I've been thinking for awhile that she may want to go visit my sister, but she doesn't want it to be her idea and I don't want to suggest it because then she may feel that I'm trying to get rid of her due to our recent issues that we don't even talk about. My sister is the caregiving type so I feel that it's her time now to be with our mother to give her the care and attention she needs/wants these days. I hope I don't sound too ungrateful or unappreciative of my mother being there for me and my children but my daughter is seeing these drastic changes between us and she has also received some of the negativity. Should I discuss the possibility of my mother visiting with my sister so she can bring it up with our mother or should I just have a heart to heart with her (before I blow up) and hope she understands?