I am currently paying for mom's memory care and we will be in a nursing home situation and on Medicaid soon as we have very limited resources. My Mom is extremely unhappy in memory care and a high functioning person in her facility. She was also diagnosed with psychosis and depression in addition to AD.She has no idea she will be out of money soon and in a nursing home. The guilt that I live with and the lies I tell her about her situation make me feel so bad , I don't want the responsibility any longer. People always say "you are doing the best you can for her." but I feel so uncomfortable with the situation I am in I feel like a terrible daughter. I have no POA or guardianship but am spending the funds from a savings acct that both our names are on. Any advice would be appreciated. I think all hell will break loose when/if she discovers I have spend her life savings on care she doesn't think she needs. Thanks for reading this .