First let me say English is not my native language, so excuse me for any errors.
My mom is 89, she is at home, where I have someone taking care of her , until I get back home every day, she is at the latest stage of dementia (not Alzheimer's), and for the last 4 or 5 weeks she has been deteriorating her condition very quickly to a point that now, I believe she would not live more than few weeks.
All the signs are there :
Refuses to eat and drink, ( even with subcutaneous hydration she tends to dehydrate)
diminished urine output ( almost only at night)
she now sleeps about 16 hours a day
when she is awake, her look is distant and withdrawn
Hard to medicate as she constantly refuses food or liquids
blood pressure seems to have lowered, even without some of her high blood pressure pills
general state is very frail and not responsive
A couple of days ago , she was dehydrated again, and before I knew if the sudden deterioration in her health was caused by an infection, rather than the natural process of her body letting go, I decided on the insertion of a feeding tube. I have just gotten the results of urine and blood tests, and there is NO urinary tract infection, and the blood test indicates a very high "sedimentation Rate"
I will go to her doctor and try to understand if this is an irreversible medical decision, and the steps I should follow now (I have to say I do not trust doctors much)
She has only been for 2 days on a feeding tube, but now that I know that she has not an urinary tract infection, what do you think I should do?
Continue with feeding tube or not? IV hydration ?
She has been for the last 2 months on subcutaneus hydration, wich gives her about 500ml serum a day, should I continue at least with that ?
I Love my mother so much, and it breaks my heart to witness her constant decline, but I dont want to cause her any pain, and discomfort by trying to "help" her.
Did you have similar experiences with your loved ones ? What did you do?
Thank you all