Just found out through my daughter (not my sisters) that my sisters are making arrangements to move Dad from his personal care home here to a nursing home where my daughter lives --- they plan to move him over Memorial weekend.
I used to be on this site on an almost daily basis making comments or asking for advice I moved back to my hometown in 2008 to help care for my parents. My sisters wanted to move my folks to a facility at that time but relented because I let them know I would take care of them at home. It was something that could be done safely and I guess they didn't realize that.
In October 2012, my Mom passed away peacefully in her own home. Two months later my sisters moved Dad to a nursing home. It was a shock to me and I knew he did not want to leave his home but I didn't want to make things worse by fighting with my sisters about it. Dad deserved a united caregiver front.
Since February 2013, my Dad has been moved four times because he did not like where he was living so my sisters shuttled him off to another facility. He lives close by so I can take him out kinda' keep an eye on what's going on and what he needs. Even though he doesn't need me to be around as much, as everyone knows, we still need to take care of parents who are in a personal care home or other facility.
Of course, it feels like a punch to the gut getting this news and especially not hearing it from my own sisters. I found out something was up when I visited Dad earlier this evening and was told that he was moving in with my daughter. Well, that's not the case. He will be moved to another facility 8 hours away from the town he's lived in for 40 years.
Can anyone relate and if so, how did your process through this kind of thing with your parent's best interest in mind?