My 93 yr old Dad is (has always been) a paroniod-demented person.
I am tired of the BS I have to deal with.
I finally was able to get him into a Memeory Care facility and now he is alwasy calling the Omsbudsman to complain. He says he is being held againt his will.
I told the Facility Director and the Omsbudsman that I will take care of all other things for my Dad, but I don't want to talk to him or see him. I'm thru with being accused of things I didn't do. He claims he's been placed in a Mental Hosiptal and he is the only one sane. He says I did this to steal his money and on and on.
He has alienated all other family, has only 1 friend (his 92 yr old neighbor). He calls her all the time and tells her horrible things. She would call me and tell me what he said, but not anymore. Guess he is getting to her.
I have POA, but I understand that since I don't have Conservatorship that he CAN leave anytimes he decides. I am in limbo about what to do about his mobile home, car and personal items at the house. The money paying the MH space could be used to continue his costs at the facility. He is self-pay and no LT insurance.
ANY suggestions on how to best handle this?????
I get Dad in a facility and then my Brain damaged brother (motorcycle accident) ends up in my home cause he has no place but the street to go.
I thought he would be able to live on his own, but from what I've seen this last 6 weeks that will never be! He is very limited in doing necessary daily things for himself cause of memory impairment. He only gets $793 SSDI and he might loose that due to being in jail and found guilty. So Social Security said they want money back for period of incarceration.
I also have limited POA for Brother and no medical POA because he didn't want to do that (according to attorney).
ANY suggestions on what to do about this situation?
I am in Central California. Not much here in the way of services that I am aware of. My brother was a resident of North Carolina until he came here in late July.
I feel so imprisioned by other people. I just want to be left alone!
My husband and I spent the last 14 yrs oof & on raising our 2 grandsons. Son is now remarried and has custody so we thought we had a breather. WRONG!!!!
Don't get me wrong and think that I don't care about my family. It's just that my Dad and Brother made poor decisions in their lives and now some how I have to sacrafice my & husbands time/money/sanity for these 2 people. Niether of them never did anything positive or helpful for me or my husband before their incapacities.
I'm asking myself why? Why have I allowed this? I don't really know. I just have always had responsibilty for someone. I'm tired of it! I thought when my Dad died I would be free, but his health is improving at the facilty. He could live for a few more years. Brother is younger than me; only 51 yrs old. He could out live me. I have my own heath issues.
Anyways, Dad is not of immediate concern. I would say it is my brother. How do I get him out of my house and some place safe? I am the only family he has.
He is my half brother; our father is not the same. My brother is an ex-con, ex-biker member who kinda scare me. He has never done anything to me, but he has to others. He gravitates to the worng crowd and won't listen when I tell him to stop posting stuff on Facebook about wife who dumped him. (he has a restraining order against him )
If he were to come to me and want to go back to NC I would buy him a ticket ASAP one-way immediately!!! Yeah, right! Nice fantasy.
So what I do is escape into my office/catch all room and read posts on here to make sure I am not alone in my frustration. I keep looking for an answer to some of the issues I'm experiencing.
Sorry this is so long.