My Aunt is currently living in independent living. She has started repeatedly soiling the lovely upholstered furniture in the common areas and other residents are reporting it to the management. They have asked us to steam clean the upholstery at our cost and want her to move to assisted living. Auntie says it is not her that soils the furniture but several people witness the spots when she moves. Auntie is in total denial about the issue and we've begged her to wear her Depends to no avail. She says she doesn't need them and she is not incontinent. I am fearful the community will discharge her and recommend assisted living for Auntie. Can anyone suggest anything we can do?