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He can leave his money to whomever he wants. But you don't need to give up your life for him either. In your place, I'd just say no.
Unless one is very wealthy, family members who are giving up jobs and benefits need to be paid for the care they are providing now.
First of all, who your father is leaving his estate to is irrelevant. It's his own choice.
Second, he need not discuss end of life plans with anyone. He can make his own decisions until he is unable, and at that time the doctors will contact the POA for health care he has chosen or his next of kin (in that order).
As to taking on 24/7 care of a senior, why do you think you might like to do that? Are you ready to give up your job? Is your father ready and willing to pay you the going rate for 24/7 care? (If so do the care plan with an attorney).
We see often on Forum that those who wish to leave their jobs, move in with elders and give 24/7 care end up homeless and jobless and without a job history often enough. Ultimately, however, whether you take on 24/7 care of your Dad or do not is entirely up to you.
Your father has many options to get the care he needs,(that don't include you) including home health agencies and even moving into an assisted living facility of his choice. So perhaps it would be in your best interest to discuss these options with him, and let him decide which route he'd like to go. Good luck.