My mother recently passed away and my father expects me to do all the cooking and cleaning. He does nothing for himself. He will not eat unless I eat with him and will not prepare anything. He's physically able to do it but he doesn't. He's 75. I don't know how to motivate him to be independent. he still works and drives but he can't take care of himself. He refuses to go to any type of counseling and the stress I am feeling is increasing.