Last year my father, 59, suffered a series of strokes in four areas of the brain. He is now non-verbal, can't walk, stand, eat, or do anything for himself. The most frustrating part for him is that he understands everything around him, understand what we say to him (sometimes he can respond with a thumbs up with his good arm or by nodding his head), but is trapped in a function-less body. I visited him at the nursing home a couple of times a week and he overall was doing okay. A few months ago I graduated from my Master's program and accepted a job in a city three hours away. I'm now only able to travel to see him every two weeks. Since I've moved, his behavior has declined. He will have fits of anger where he will swing his good arm, and unfortunately he's still very strong, albeit uncoordinated. While this is obviously a problem for staff trying to calm him down or keep him from falling out of his wheelchair, it's a much bigger problem now that he's hit several other elderly woman residents. Thus, the nursing home has politely said without directly saying that they want me to find another place for him. I believe if I am able to move him to a facility up here near me, his behavior might improve since I'll be able to see him more the way I did before. However, the first place that had availability took a look at his file and immediately rejected him based on his behavior. So now I'm in a spot where his current NH wants him gone, but his file paints him as a violent resident so I'm going to have a hard time getting him accepted anywhere else. Any advice? I feel helpless, backed into a corner, and I'm also 4 months pregnant so I've got a lot of other "life" on my plate at this moment as well. Feeling a bit defeated.