Although I am fourth of six children, I have always taken lead role with my family. Our family has always been dysfunctional, due to alcoholic and unemployed father and schizophrenic mother. Having struggled for most of our life, now we six children are alright - all professionals, married and lead middle class life.
About eight years ago, I was diagnosed with cancer and have to undergo two sets of treatment. During that time, I couldn't take care of my aging parents. Prior to that they were living in my rumpus room. Then, I asked my baby brother to take care of them. But, in the eight years they were with him, due to neglect my mother's physical and mental health suffered a lot. He and my sister in law was locking her up and not providing food sometime. Rest of my siblings who are overseas, turned blind eye except visiting once a year.
About a year ago, when I recovered from cancer, I bought a unit for my parents. Then, behind my back, my father and eldest sister (who has the POA) put my mother into a rest home prematurely. As I couldn't leave my alcoholic father alone in the unit, I have to evict him. Now he also moved into a rest home.
Now my father and eldest sister is offended with me as I asked my father to move out of my unit, and they will not communicate with me. Most importantly, they are withholding information on my mother's health. Three other siblings also have ganged up with them leaving two of us on other side.
How can I get a better outcome for my mother in her late days?