I am posting my question again - I posted my question last week as "dehydrated" but no further details. So, my father has late-stage dementia and he lives at home with my and my mother. He's unintelligible, confused, and some days eats very little. He can usually feed himself using a fork or spoon, but most days, he's just not interested. He has developed dependent edema of the calves and ankles. It's been this way for a few weeks and he has showed signs of slowing down and is tired. He is receiving in-home hospice services. They are treating him with Ted hose. My questions is that 2 members of the extended family feel that we are not doing enough - that a hospital ER visit is in order. I've contacted numerous medical professionals beyond those at hospice and all are in agreement that a hospital stay would not benefit a person with dementia - especially in the stage my father is in. I am struggling with guilt, but don't want to traumatize my father. Any thoughts would be appreciated.