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I am so sorry for your loss. May God be with you in your time in need.
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I'm so sorry for your loss Ziggy
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Forgot to say, sorry for your loss
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My Mom was 89 when she passed from Dementia. It was so hard watching her go thru this, a woman who sacrificed for husband and children. She became so frail. Being the oldest and the caregiver I have had to try to remember the good times. Because the last 3 yrs of her life were far from it. Her passing was a relief. A relief because she was no longer suffering from this desease. She had her faith so she knew where she was going. I had a family friend do her service. He grew up with my brothers and had become a minister. He knew the family well and had us laughing and crying. My Highschool friends were there and stood up and talked about the good times.

Thats what you need to remember, the good times. You have to know that Dad would not have wanted to live his final years like that. So its a blessing he was able to let go of this life.

Now, for you, its time to get back to life. Facebook was good for me. Was able to reconnect with some school friends and work friends. Have had breakfast and lunch with them. I keep my friend list short and privacy settings "private or friends only". No friends of friends just my friends. This way I can keep in touch and chat privately with them.

Time for you. Feel free to be selfish. My retirement of 7 years has been driving my GF, her mother and daughter to doctor appts. Then caring for my infant Gson and without being able to take a breath...right into caring for my Mom, In the year since her death, I have not volunteered to help anyone. I am still dealing with Moms 125 yr old run down house and a disabled nephew. The time in between is mine for now. I get up late, take my time doing whatever. See friends. Just allow myself what I want to do. Before Moms death she was in a NH. We had planned on a trip south to see relatives, then Mom died. A week after her death we went on our trip. So nice to get away. Maybe something you should do.
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Ziggy, I am so sorry that your Father passed away recently.  It is very hard to cope with on top of everything else that happened while he was alive.

There is a time for helping and giving, and there is a time for slowing down and pulling back...   You helped and gave SO MUCH to your Father and now is the time for YOU to slow down and give back to yourself.  Allow yourself time to grieve.  But also give yourself time and permission to remember the GOOD TIMES that you and your Father had together throughout the years. 
God Bless and {{{Hugs}}}
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Dear Ziggy, try to get some sleep. You are probably dog tired physically, and exhausted emotionally. You need to rest. Your father is safe now, and you must look after yourself. For his sake, as well as for yours. Love, Margaret
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Ziggy, I am so sorry! My deepest condolences on the loss of your beloved father.
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