My once supportive dad was always proud of my accomplishments, however as his dementia progresses he has become jealous and tries to one up me excessively for no reason. He was never a jealous person, except with business partners in sales in his younger years (30+ years ago). Its as if he knows I'm his daughter, but sees me as a business partner to beat at looking successful with.
I was raised a proud daddy's girl, and worked hard to be a good daughter. My father always was proud and cheered me on, but as his dementia progressed he became very jealous. He views normal conversations about my day with jealousy, and then attempts to "one up" me even if I am just talking about the weather. He is to the point he will blatantly lie about his accomplishments to top mine.
This has gotten to the point that calling to say hello is a negative experience, because he begins to get jealous, defensive, one up me even by lying, and also daily has delusions that he is becoming a super star.
When he isnt making up things to one up me about, he starts to act nervous then tries to teach me random things about topics/stories he is unable to follow and understand.
I want to be able to tell my dad "Hello, just calling to say hi, I had a few minutes when I wasn't busy today"...without him saying something like, "with my large company [he doesnt have one at all] and clients [he has none] I am busy too, much more than you...I am famous now. Everything I own is expensive."
It hurts to see my dad act in competition with me, versus proud or at least relaxed around me like I am family again.
Any ideas or tips on mindset or anything to help us both cope better?
I am considering only talking to him about his day, and never mentioning myself or family to avoid triggering him.