FIL got a girlfriend before his wife passed with dementia in January. We thought we had him back and realizing she was a controlling narcissist, but now they are celebrating their “anniversary” in the mountains. Medicaid owns his house but she insists on what needs to be done to sell it so “they” can get an RV, a timeshare, or her to blow the money. Does a realtor find out from Medicaid about the lien (which isn’t filed yet in the courthouse) so they get paid and not her, or what should we do? He’s completly blinded by her.