Father in law with AD secretively got married and now bank accounts have been changed. Any advice?

Another thought - a judge wouldn't enter an emergency conservatorship order, but what about an injunctive order or temporary restraining order preventing her from liquidating any of the assets? At least that would preserve the assets until this is sorted out.

Mojo, try another angle. The new wife cannot arbitrarily change documents; she has no authority to do so. Only your father can legally change documents which he executed.

I don't think you could get much information from the holder of the IRA, but you could raise issues by contacting them and asking what data they required to change ownership, i.e., do they have a notarized statement from your father adding her to the IRA...something like that?

I understand that she may have exerted undue influence on him and that's why you write that she (not he) has changed documents to benefit herself; my point was only that SHE can't change anything; your father has to sign to effect changes.

I'm wondering what practice area your attorney specializes in. I recall reading sometime ago, online, that people with dementia at the level of being unable to make decisions can't enter into marriage or divorce contracts. I don't recall the citation;, this was several months ago, and this is JUST a recollection. It seems though that the legal advice you've received is to the contrary. This is why I wonder if an attorney in the elder law practice area gave the advice you cited, or if it was an attorney who practiced in a different area.

What I'm thinking though is that you might want to consult an elder law attorney who might be more knowledgeable on elder abuse to ask about the marriage situation. Attorneys who aren't up to speed on fields outside their practice area may not necessarily be aware of the laws affecting dementia.

There have been other posts on similar situations. One, as I recall, involved a woman who might have been practicing this tactic repeatedly, focusing on older men with dementia, targeting them and going for the money. Think about getting some background research done on her, with a private eye if necessary.

How did he meet her? Were they friends before they went on vacation together? Is she new to the area? Where did she live before? Was she married? Has she been married a few times? What's the status of any previous husbands?

we have an attorney. however we spoke to 8 and all said marriage is a civil right and even with dementia they can still marry. since this post she has now changed herself to poa and changed all the bank accounts and put her name on the trust. The judge refused to enter in an emergency conservatorship but we now have papers filed to get that. I still want to try to have the marriage annulled given everything this gold digger has done in the past 2 weeks since we found out about the marriage.

A marriage is a legal contact. If you dad has advanced AD, is he competent to enter into a contract?

Mojo, I would recommend an "Elder Law Attorney" for this matter as this is such a specialized field.

I know I would have hit the roof if my Dad had done that. Companionship is one thing, but marriage??? You would think there would be one way to reverse this marriage because of your Dad's advanced dementia.