My fil has been living with us for 6 mo. after not having the money to stay in a long term care facility. He has end stage renal disease, heart disease and in operable bladder cancer. He has been refered to Hospice but refuses due to not being able to continue his dialysis on Hospice. We have palitive care coming in. They have brought up this need to have a will in place and want to refer him to an attorney. I can not see him paying for an attorney.
He does not respond when I have talked to him about putting his wishes in writing. He will say "yah, I need to do that" but doesn't. He is still married and has no contact with his wife. Everything will defer to her if he dosen't at lease put it in writing.
Has anyone else had issues with this? We have our hands tied, with him saying one thing and not acting on it. From that I gather he wants her to control his estate. But why would he make the effort to have the conversation with us?