My dad is almost 96 lives home with mom 90. stairs to bedroom and main bath for shower. Dad is weak , He has familial tremors in whole body and can't even talk hardly any more. hes on high blood pressure meds and prozac and something else for bipolar and depression . Now has alergy to antibotic used for bladder inection. Mom says he's too old for all these meds and he needs to stop taking it all. Put on anxiety meds for sinus problems not being addressed and causing a feeling of suffocation due to flem in throat. Mom says Dr's say its all in his mind and mom isn't treating his symptoms with any meds like sudafed for post nasal drip. I know what this is all about , my husband has the exact same thing and she won't listen to me. Fear he is suffering uneededly due to lack of common sense in mother. I am at a point in thinking it is time to intervene and don't know how to go about this due to stubborn and unwillingness to accept advice and physical help from anyone. Do I need to go up to acess situation ??? I live 1000 miles away. God help me I don't know where to start and how to show up there mom said don't come. I know she's struggling with all this and needs help and hides all this from me so i won't get involved.Help, Help , Help!!! Some one out there please help with advice!!!