My elderly (85) father, whom my sisters and I believe has early-to-mid dementia, doesn't want us to visit him or call him at the hospital. He had a minor stroke 3 years ago, and lives at home with a caregiver of his own choosing. He has grown increasingly distrustful of my sisters and me over the years, for no good/rational reason. Now he is in the hospital with pain that might be due to a pinched nerve and/or muscle spasm. He didn't want his caregiver to let us know, but she did because she felt we should know. I am the only daughter who is local, I live 15 minutes away from the hospital, but he does not want me to visit. I feel helpless. I think he wants to maintain his independence, but I also think he does not trust us & fears that we want to force him into assisted living. We have told him over and over, truthfully, that we support him living at home with his caregiver, with whatever adjustments need to be made at the house for his safety. It is heartbreaking to me that he doesn't trust me. I don't know how to handle the situation. He doesn't want me or my sisters involved in his medical care, at all.