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He lives with me and I am the primary caregiver. I supervise his hygiene closely. We have recently added wellbutrin and lorizapam to his daily medications. Could that be the cause?
Also, he is obsessed, to the point of waking up several times a night, with going to work. He retired in 1985. He will get up and get dressed and insist until I assure him it is the middle of the night. I just ordered a bed alarm. He also obsesses about going to get his things from his travel trailor to bring home and he hasn't had a travel trailer for 10 years. I realize these things were fond memories but he just won't let it go. Any ideas? I generally tell him we will take care of it tomorrow and, if he remembers it, I try another excuse.
I feel we are in the final stages of dementia. He knows the family but does not know where he is and I have lived in the same house for 20 years. He has been here for 3. Many nights nothing looks familiar. I pray for patience every night and all day long. It works most of the time, but don't know how much longer I can go. My plans are to contact our insurance company to begin home health care. His doctor has not been helpful and simply suggests we put him in a facility. Not a choice as long as he is mobile and knows who we are.

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My dad, when he got cancer, started taking some homeopathic vitamin, made his skin smell, so yes, those meds could affect his odor...See side effects online maybe that is the cause. Is he eating differently? Try some metamucil or other things to help him pass quicker....just throwing that one out there....sorry.
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ADult day care may get you some relief if dad is willing to try it out. They ;usually give you an observance day to scope out the scene. Dad may like going once a week.... Call your city parks, Salvation Arm, look on line...
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Look around in your area by driving or searching the internet, but the single family homes with 2 caretakes and6 residents was the ticket for my dad's sister, and my mom in another facility. If you see a wheelchair ramp in front, it may be a board and care. Walk up, knock and ask politely...That's how I found my geriatric places. And they are not all the same, people do make a difference, so pop in, study, and do it often until they know your name and you get an idea of how well it will be for your family member.
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Seroquel, I believe is for Sundowners, when it's after dinner and getting night, they get into this funk. Aricept and Namenda didn't help mom much, and Namenda is more expensive, but you may find it helps slow down the process. With hospice, we stopped these meds, we cannot reverse DEMENTIA OR ALZ in her, so we accept and keep her as well as possible.
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I am sorry you are in this spot. Long time memory sets in, Short time memory goes quickly Does he repeat himself? It's a long journey. If you can find some help to help you would be good. I was in denial with my mom for years. My husband finally found out I wasn't sleeping. I moved her close to me years ago so she and her sister could live together. My aunt passed, and mom's animals were getting old too.... It was tough on mom. I finally had to move her to a 6 pack, 6 residents and 2 caretakers in a one story house. Not the same as her home, but close. At least she is still close to me, and I do pop in unannounced. She is in her later ALZ. mode now, but still recognizes me, sleeps a lot, and doesn't talk anymore.....That is sad. But when I moved her there, all she said was: Go HOme go home,,,,I call that the geriatric mantra....
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