He needs PT to stay strong enough to stay home. Dad is 80 years old w/spinal stenosis, diabetes, chronic pain and severe mobility problems. 3 months ago he had neuro surgery and is recovering (earlier this year, he lost complete use of his hands and became incontinent). He had serious surgery, did 3 weeks in-hospital intense PT and has had 5-6 weeks of PT since he got home in late August. He has made so much progress! But now, he decided to focus on one aspect of the PT he hates - won't talk to the therapists about his concerns - and decided that "its not doing any good." I could honor his decision - except Mom (70 w/no health issues) is taking care of him and, quite frankly, it's killing her (not being dramatic - literally). His response to my concerns about how his decision affects his family is "Oh well, that's okay. I won't go downhill, not me." We have already done 5 months of the hospital, nursing home cycle earlier this year. I can't help but to feel that I am left to wait until he gets so weak that Mom can no longer take care of him at home (she is refusing home health services) and/or he ends up in hospital. He says that PT isn't that important and I am blowing it out of proportion. Am I?