I love my father dearly. He lives alone in an independent living facility. During the day he does socialize with people, but at night, he's in his apartment by himself and he starts calling me multiple times at night. He calls as soon as I get home from work, an hour later when I'm having dinner, and then again later on. Last week, I had already had two longer phone conversations with him, and I was finally sitting down to unwind and watch TV for a little bit before going to bed. Sure enough, as soon as I sat down, the phone rang. I just about lost it. I sort of snapped at him, and then I felt bad. Another time, after already speaking to him, I told him I had to get some work done on my computer that evening. Sure enough, I had just logged on and the phone rang. Several times, I have specifically told him that I will not be available in the evening (if I have plans to go out) and sure enough, he calls anyway. The other night (after telling him that I was going out at least 5 times) he called my cell phone (which I told him to call only in emergency). I was out with some friends, and I had to step outside and call him.
He calls even when I tell him that I won't be around. He is still mentally alert. This is really starting to affect me. Am I not allowed to go out and have some sort of social life? I basically take care of him by myself because my two sisters barely chip in. I don't know what else to do. I don't mind talking to him daily but getting phone calls from him every 45 minutes is too much. He doesn't respect the fact that I do have a life, and can't talk to him constantly. Sometimes I feel like I'm ready to have a breakdown. Then I feel guilty if I don't talk to him, or cut the conversation short. Does anyone have any suggestions, or is there a way (which I hate to do) to block his number periodically so he can't call me? I am riddled with guilt sometimes, but then I feel like I'm going to have a breakdown when he calls constantly.