Wife wants to die at home, dad's dementia is worsening w/daily panic attacks. My brother is supposed to care for them but he lives in Alabama. He sent his wife's daughter (30yrs old) to live with them but dad panics every time she leaves the house, and also, the daughter has some kind of a drug issue. Not a good idea. The wife has physical issues, (unable to walk unassisted) and dad is getting weaker and feebler. So, I guess I'm hunting for what is the first thing to do... I tell my brother, if she doesn't want to leave the house, then let her leechy son move in and take care of her, but my dad needs to be with his son in Alabama. They both need to be in Alabama, but wife will not leave home. I just need a reminder as to the best thing to do right now. Can't seem to think straight myself! Thank you.