My MIL was recently diagnosed with dementia. She currently has no physical issues, just cognitive symptoms including difficulties with memory, word finding, and attention to task. She takes blood pressure medication. She loved to cook her entire life and now is having trouble with recalling the steps, keeping attention to remember what ingredients she put in, etc. My FIL cares for her in their home. He is a kind man and just wants to help his wife. Problem is that MIL is in complete denial of any symptoms. She was assessed by a memory center and they told her she had dementia and explained but it didn't penetrate with her. She often says there is nothing wrong with her and that the problems comes from my FIL. Since she can't recall to take her pills correctly my FIL gives them to her at breakfast each day. But some days she says she doesn't need them and refuses to take them. She doesn't want to go to doctors but my FIL has had some success getting her to a new geriatrician. The doc will enforce that she take medicine and she may agree but again her compliance on a day to day basis is variable. My FIL tries to help with cooking: they will discuss a dinner item, agree on something, get out all the ingredients, and mom will then forget and/or deny they discussed it and want to make something else. Because cooking was never my FIL's role, my MIL will often refuse his help (which she needs to stay on task, and then can be successful) and say she could do it better if he just left her alone. My FIL has begun to attend a monthly support group and that helps a little. I am wondering if anyone has dealt with this in caring for someone at home and how to get them to comply? We're afraid if they get a caregiver to come in that will essentially be a stranger to mom and she won't accept help from them either. She really doesn't accept help from anyone. Any ideas are greatly appreciated.