I left my full time job as a over the road truck driver and came home to help my in laws bc my 56 yr old mother in law fell up sick and ended up on dialysis with kidney failure, diabetes, depression, high blood pressure, COPD, and now possible lupus, along with that she has dementia/memory loss. She is mean, rude, calls me every name under the sun and I am barely getting any help from my father in law/the family. My husband & I gave up everything and moved in with them for me to help out. I feel like everyone is running over me, doesn't appreciate or even understands what I am dealing with. They all say "that's just her, ignore it, she won't do anything, etc" and when I do ask for help they don't want to help me or its a a bad time for them to help out. They just assume that I should do everything and then it back fires on me because its not right or I should have done more. I feel like they think that I have all the time in the world and they don't realize how much above and beyond I have gone. I did almost walk away at one point and it got turned around on me that I was a control freak, but when you have someone that is threating to take all their meds at once, or says they don't want to live, calls the cops on you at every little thing, or attemps to damage your property/steal your truck bc they are not getting their way. What am I suppose to do? How am I suppose to be able to handle that stress and feel like I can still have a life with my husband? I just feel like I have hit a point that I am not sure which way to go. Thank you

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You had a fulltime job. You can be self supporting. That is a huge strength to call on.

What you are doing, what you thought would be best when you made this move, is not working out. Continuing to repeat over and over what clearly does not work is crazy. Changes must be made. As Jessie says, try to work with your husband to plan changes together, but know if it is necessary you can make changes alone.

You did this out of compassion and thinking it was the right thing. I am sure that you are still a compassionate person, but clearly this is not the right thing.
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How does your husband feel about these things? I wondered if he was one of the ones criticizing you. I would sit down with him and have a heart to heart. Tell him that it is not working out and you need to make other arrangements. If he won't listen to you, tell him that you need to make other arrangements for yourself then. People will often try to control you through criticizing. I don't know your financial situation, but you sound most unhappy with the way things are now. You have the right to happiness even if it is inconvenient for other people.
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