How can I get help when I can’t even find a pro bono attorney, they all want money I don’t have...
Am 63 years old now and had moved in with my mother (85 years old), in March 2015 as she was diagnosed with ovarian cancer, stage 4. I was her sole caretaker for 2 years and 9 months until her passing. Siblings thought that because I left my job and moved in with her that I should need no help, they didn’t understand and I was never paid as her caregiver. I went into debt I never had in my life. I had to cash in my only IRA which was about 6,000. The next summer I had to cash in my 401K to pay bills which was only approximately 8,000.
My mom and I were so very close I almost had a nervous breakdown at the thought of losing her. I was on a lot of medications from a psychiatrist because of the condition I was in. So I have no job, no money, no help from siblings that don’t understand and I was my Mom’s POA for her health but her will had my older sister and younger brother as coexecutors on her will.
My sister and I had not gotten along in years. She never did one thing to help my mother during this whole time and visited her twice at my Mom’s condo where I moved in with my mom. This was at the beginning of my moving in. She only called my mother maybe every 2 weeks if that. She had walked away from my Mom’s illness and anything that was going on with my mother.
Once when I had an appointment for my own mental health, my mom had a cancer treatment appointment and no ride. She called my sister, after my sister in law that was busy that day and my sister said, “No, I can’t but take a cab and I’ll pay for it." Who says this to their own mother? My mother called my cousin that lives an hour away and she was more than happy to come out and take my mom and called me to update me on everything at that appointment. Now my sister has done everything to spite me that she possibly can and doesn’t care at all about the wishes my mom had which she knows very well.
There is a lot more to this, but I need help. I can’t afford an attorney and I am a wreck which is the last thing my mom wanted and my mom had talked to each of my three siblings and told them that she knew they would all be fine and all were financially fine. I wasn’t emotionally doing good or financially, and was falling apart physically from not being able to take care of myself. I need so much help and guidance and I do not even know who to turn to for legal help I need desperately. I tried one place that said they were pro bono and they at the time said they couldn’t help me. It’s gotten so much worse with her and what she’s now saying to me thru my mother’s estate attorney, using my mother’s estate money to pay this attorney, stating that she is even deducting money from me once the estate is settled. I need someone to help me. I have nothing. I’m looking into contesting the will or getting paid for being my mother’s sole caretaker or doing whatever I need to do but don’t know where to turn. Also I’m trying to find out if I can sue my sister in a civil case for all of the pain and suffering and mental anguish she has put me thru but again need an attorney. I know without a doubt my mom would have taken them out of the will had she ever thought this could happen and I’m not letting this go. I don’t say one word back about these letters I get basically threatening me. I’m not like them and I need to stay the better person and not respond because that would make her even happier. I live in Lake County IL and the probate court is in Waukegan. I don’t think I can do anything on my own about this but I’m trying to look up anything I can to get information.
Please help if you can.