Is it realistic for family from out of town to expect me to cook for them?

My first thought was maybe the relatives remember past family holidays where you or mom had cooked fantastic meals, so they (ignorantly) assumed the same would be true on this Easter. They are out of touch for sure! The only way to get them in touch is to make it clear before they arrive, they're on their own for meals (and taxi service, as another person mentioned). In our family,.there are hardly any visits from the 4 out of state kids. But when they have visited, we usually get sandwich fixings--a variety of bread, deli meat, cheese, Cole slaw, jello, cookies, nuts, etc. All of.those are at the deli! If it's someone birthday we get a cake at bakery in same mall. Not.a big deal to put any of this out on the buffet. Everyone serve themselves. Everyone put their plate in the dishwasher. Of course after they've gone, there is always leftover cleaning for me to do. But there's also some nice leftovers for mom to eat in the following days. Once in awhile one of the sibs will chip in 10 or 20 bucks. But I would never dream of visiting them, and expecting them to feed me for a weekend. I would put myself up in hotel and buy my own meal at restaurant.

couple of quick solutions: PIZZA or Chinese food delivery! They don't like that? tough. Also if you had a Honey Ham nearby they also cook a holiday dinner (must be pre-ordered) but suddenly having to feed 10 more people is really unrealistic.

Who did the inviting? If you did, then you should have expected they were thinking they were invited for a holiday dinner. If they said they were going to "visit" then you needed to suggest a few budget motels nearby. They would have gotten the message.

I know of a relative who when visiting her son, regards the visit as a vacation. Don't stew, speak up. If they feel close enough to come for a holiday and stay over then you are close enough to say everyone has to pitch in.

You can't be walked on unless you allow them to as Ann Landers used to say.