My 84 year old mother has been showing steady signs of cognitive decline over the past several years. She lives alone in her own house in the country and drives into town (about 3 miles away) almost daily. I have the legal roles of agent, attorney and personal representative, none of which have been activated.
For many years, family members have been expressing concerns about my mother changing. I would like to have her undergo a cognitive assessment but my brother and his wife, who’s house is close to her’s, are making it next to impossible. They treat me with disrespect and lie to me. They keep important information from me.
I went ahead and booked an assessment which is to take place very soon. Since then my brother’s texts have become aggressive and threatening. Today they took on a dismissive, mocking tone. I’m trying hard to keep calm but I feel like I’m in the battle of my life and I am badly wounded.
My mom, brother, and his wife display classic narcissistic tendencies. Reasoning, effective communication, integrity, etc. are unheard of concepts to them. Other family members accuse me of causing problems and stress. All I want is to find out where mom is at cognitively so we can plan for the future.
I know many of you deal with the same struggle: trying to do the right thing and getting blasted for it. I feel for all of you. Thanks for hearing me out.