I have 6 sisters. 4 of them are not really in mom's life at all. 2 of them call her on the phone every day for like 5 minute chats. Mom is 86 years old with dementia stage 5.
Both of the two that call her just don't get the fact that they should not be sharing bad news with mom and that they should keep their conversations positive with her. They still run to mommy to complain about their own lives, stresses and worries. I am the one that deals with the fall out when they cause her to obsess about them and their problems.
One of them told ma this week about a friend who has cancer. All week my mom has been crying and upset about this. She doesn't know the girl any more - she did know her DECADES ago.
Hearing this news has also caused her to remember people she lost over the years to cancer and now she is crying about all of her lost loves ones.
I have begged and pleaded with them not to do this and they just don't stop!
I have mom in my home and am with her 24/7 and I HIDE the bad from her and try to only share positive things (even if i have to make up positive things to share because life isn't exactly full of them right now!) And they can't hide the bad news from her for a 5 minute phone call????
Of course I don't want to try to stop mom from talking to her daughters (not that i could if I wanted to) but I don't want them bringing all of this sadness into mom's (and my) life. Any suggestions on how to stop this madness????