I had something come up that kind of shocked me, and out of nowhere. Want to know what others thought and would do, or if anyone has had similar a situation. I had a family member ask if he could take my dad out fishing, was upset that my dad doesn't get to go out and do stuff, that's a quote.
He wanted to use my dads boat as well. Also my dad is a big guy over 6 foot tall and 230 lbs, cannot walk, can stand for transfer but his balance is bad, he's a huge fall risk, he has a limited range of movement with arms, can't cast, even getting him in and out of a car is difficult. Said person who asked, is a 5'7 male. I told him it would not be safe for my dad to do that because of his balance issues and a wheel chair being on a floating dock, as well as transferring my dad from his wheelchair to a boat on the water would not be safe, said boat is a bass boat, no rails to hang onto, floor deck is low, seats sit high above the boat edge, so getting dad out of the boat would be near impossible as well. I used to fish with my dad all the time on this boat, I know it well, I'm familiar with fishing, so I was really shocked that this family member would not grasp how unsafe that would be and I was fully aware of that. And also dad does go out and do stuff, but it's hard because my dad doesn't like to do much, doesn't like going to movies, can't read, can barely write, cannot walk, can barely stand, dad fights with other people. That the reason he lives with me. My dad likes to go out to eat, watch westerns and country music videos. We go for drives in the country, he loves that, likes to look at the crops, likes to go out for lunch or dinner. He goes to a farmstead that he really enjoys, and minor league baseball games.
Has any one else struggled with this kind of stuff? This family member is usually busy with marathons and traveling, welcome to come and visit when he or anyone else wants and he rarely does.
Also any ideas anyone have for a guy like my dad, things I can take him to do that he might actually like. Thanks all.