I'm visiting for a week and don't want to cause friction with anyone. I think caregiver is overwhelmed and is perhaps not as respectful as should be, to the point of causing unnecessary stress. I can't take over Dad's care yet, although I would like to in the future. Caregiver will not accept any suggestions as to how to speak more carefully. I however can not bear to listen when he yells at him for walking too far or for anything else that would be alright if he weren't so frail. If I just walk away he sees that as ME disrespecting HIM the caregiver. I guess I could just sit there and make eye contact with my Dad so he knows I love him. Dad has a personality disorder that makes him extremely depressed whenever he is disparaged or disrespected, he also has an impulse control problem and could go the other way, becoming quite angry himself. I thought perhaps I could do a little strip tease just to distract them, but that would only work once if at all. One of the biggest issues is explaining why we don't want him to drive, and the other is we are afraid that in his gullible impulse control state, someone will talk him out of all his money. He has mild to moderate vascular dementia that is sporadic. So it is difficult to watch the caregiver who will not taking the steps to watch the special how to videos on how to deal with someone. He just says I don't know anything because I am not there often enough. I know that whenever they get into a shouting match, my father is sick in bed the next day, so he's paying a price for this. I also know the caregiver is giving 100% of his time and effort and his "best." except for the not wanting to learn anything new in how to deal with the emotions of his patient. Caregiver is also family member and has POA. Any advice would be sorely appreciated.