I am caregiver for my mother here in Canada and my grandmother whom I love dearly has her own caregiver in Jerusalem. I am at my wits end because grandma (after a stroke) is suddenly displaying end-stage signs of dementia. I am awake throughout the night speaking with the caregiver there and then during the day I care for my mother (GM's daughter).
I tried to speak with my siblings about how bad Grandma is getting and none of them are making an effort to inquire or even discuss it with me.
Just now I called my brother and said Grandma is in and out of consciousness - I am so worried and he responded "now what? Am sure she's fine. There's nothing you can do so stop torturing yourself."
I try not to bother them I tell them only bare minimum info. But, I feel I am alone in this. When I cry at the thought of grandma passing my sister says "we'll all be upset you know"
I know Her passing is inevitable but I can't act like them and wash my hands of the situation.
No one will pick up slack/ duties here with mom for me to go to grandma.
My guilt for not being by her side and my fears have me in a knot.