I'm a sibling who's offered to provide caregiver relief for a sibling who's been taking care of our parent with dementia. Time and again my offers have been rejected. I cared for my parent for two years when she was first diagnosed. By the time her mood stabilized, I developed a medical emergency and so I called my sibling and asked for help.
She's been caring for our parent for 4 years and in that time used our parent's pension, set aside for our parent's care, to cover school expenses for one of her children. I believe what she did was wrong, since this was not in our parent's best interest, but I have no control over that since my sibling is POA.
I've offered to bring our parent to back to my home in another state numerous times, and each time I've been refused. Most recently this sibling asked me to arrange for our parent to receive specific medical care in my state. She said she wanted her to stay with me. I made appointments, sent her all the information and was expecting to go and get my parent, when another sibling phoned and said, my sibling felt I was "trying to take over."
I am deeply concerned about this and have no idea what to do. Any advice, recommendations would be helpful.