Is it just me? My mother had a life threatening illness over two years ago which required hospitalization and she is doing great now. Both her primary physician and cardiologist credit my diligent home care with her great recovery. However, with her many conditions, high blood pressure, heart related problems, etc., any letting up on her diet, medications and care so forth, can result in her getting sick again. Her relatives keep inviting her (without consulting with me first) for day trips and recently for a trip which requires a 10 hour drive one way, staying there for a few days and visiting with alot of relatives that she hasn't seen in quite awhile. I don't feel in anyway that this is appropriate. First of all, no one else is involved in her care and I know her limits, diet and so forth. She would never think of saying she was tired or hungry because she wouldn't want to impose on anyone. I have been told I am keeping her from people who want to spend time with her and trying to totally control who she is with. I feel because I am her caregiver, out of respect, I need to be asked if it would be alright for her to go. People seem to have the mindset that she is an adult and should be able to make her own decisions. If she was able, I wouldn't be her caregiver. She needs daily weigh in because of her heart condition as well as her daily medication and a heart friendly diet. When I started to take care of my mom, I never thought I would have to deal with people asking to take her places. I don't understand it, that's why I am asking, "Is it just me".