Hello! I have found this site to be a tremendous source of help, it’s really appreciated! Here’s my situation.. My elderly dad is staying with me for a while. He has his own place out of town.
He is in grief, my mom died a year ago. He came in late November. My place was only a temporary measure, for him to get organized and to have company for a while. However, he seems to think that staying here long term is an option for him. He says that he really doesn’t know what he wants. This is true, as sometimes he says that he can’t wait to return to his home. Other times, it seems that he’d be content to stay at my place indefinitely. That’d be hard on me, as I’m single. Also, he only knows me in this area. He’s got more of a support system back home. I don’t want to be unreasonable with him. However, I did come up with a date which I’d like him to leave. I lied and said that I’ll be working more this Summer, and I’d like him to leave in early June. Also, he’s talked to me disrespectfully at least twice. I told him that as my guest, he’s got to speak with me respectfully. He did apologize both times. I told him that f I feel that he’s not being respectful, I will have to have him go home sooner.
Also, I’m a bit frustrated that he keeps seeing my place as an option for a longer stay, when I’ve been clear that it’s temporary. I feel that he’s not good with boundaries, and almost feel like he’s taking advantage of my kindness.
Am I out of line?