She is mobile, active, social, and STUBBORN. She insists on staying in her house, where she lives alone (with the support of attentive neighbors).
Any suggestion of changing her living arrangements -- even putting in elder-friendly grips in the bathroom, etc. -- raises her ire. She refuses to consider making ANY changes, or moving; she becomes very angry and will not even discuss possibilities or plans.
I live and work 500+ miles away; my older sister, who shares mother's denial about the circumstances, lives and works 5,000+ miles away. Mother refuses to relocate nearer to either of us -- although, since she has narcissistic tendencies, her refusal is a mixed blessing.
As many of you know, it is not easy to be on perpetual call for the emergencies both big and small that happen when old folks live alone far away.
It's pretty clear that I will be on my own developing any plans for her. All suggestions will be greatly appreciated. Thank you.