My father passed away in Dec. 31st 2014, 2 days before I returned from Afghanistan. I had 28 days of leave and during that time, I had to take care of all of his arrangements, find an ALF for mom because she had advanced Alzheimers and was unable to care for herself, clean out the house... too many things. I have 4 siblings and am the youngest of 5. It has since become my responsibility to be the sole caretaker for mom. They didn't have anything, and dad had taken the money out of their insurance policies, so they didn't even have that. I've gotten dad's survivor benefits for mom from the VA and mom's Social Security, but it only adds up to around $2,000.00. Her ALF is $4,500.00 a month. I've been paying this by myself and really need to know if there is any help. I tried moving her to a facility that accepts Medicaid, but they are either horrible, or have a waiting list over a year long. I need to work out of state to make enough money to pay fit her care, so I don't even get to see her as much as I'd love to. Airfare is expensive, and I try to go once a month, but that involves so much extra money. There has got to be some assistance somewhere. My siblings will never help.