My mother with moderate dementia has been with me for 3.5 years in my home. Due to her seperation anxiety issues I am facing having to either increase the home aid coverage, or move her to assisted living. I found one that is like a 5 star hotel, within her budget, heck I would move in. Because we are also in the midst of a caretaker transition (day one, not going smoothly, first replacement lasted only an hour), I broached the subject of considering assisted living. You would think I signed her death warrant. And her dying brain is making me the evil daughter that now hates her, and that she wanted to live with family, etc, etc. Not going well at all. Do I just suck it up and do what is best for her even if she does not agree? How can I convince myself to turn a deaf ear to her crying and anger at me? Any suggestions will be greatly appreciated. I don't have any siblings that can help so I have to pay for assistance.