My mother has pneumonia and dementia. She has been in the hospital for 8 days. The doctor just called me to say that she was not responding to the antibiotics and steroids and that she was not going home any time soon. He knows that I do not want to put her in a nursing home because I had a couple bad experiences earlier. I've put her in and taken her back home. He said that she was silently aspirating when drowsy and the meds make her drowsy and this was a vicious cycle. He said " you don't want her on a feeding tube right?" and I said yes. Should I try the feeding tube? Please give me a few suggestions.
I don't want to be put in a position where I have to make the decision to remove the tube and that's my reason not to try this in the first place.