My Mom is a retired professor who was diagnosed with dementia and possibly the beginning of Alzheimer's, 3 years ago. She also drinks a LOT of wine. I'm staying with her for a few months for 2 reasons: #1 My rent went up, my income went down, and I travel a lot for work, so I thought I'd camp out in the guestroom for a few months and get my finances in order. #2 To try and get things put back in order at her house - found a cleaning lady, yard man, and handyman. Still filing the hoards of paper, helping with finances and taxes, cooking, shopping, etc. I used to drive 3 hours back and forth to do this, 3-4 times a week. The dementia is challenging enough, but the 9-14 bottles of wine she drinks per week are just... depressing and crazy. I took her to a new GP last week who was appalled by the picture I showed him of 9 wine empty bottles over 5 days of drinking, and he told her she had to stop. That just pissed her off and she drank more. She was super upset that I "exposed" her to the Dr, because according to her, there is no problem. She's smart, slippery, combative, and obstinate. I am exhausted and feel I need to move out, but then feel guilty about leaving her in such a state. A friend of mine suggested that I leave her to sink to the lowest depths so maybe she'll do something about the drinking. How can a person with dementia do that? I love my Mom and want to protect her, but this situation is not healthy for me. What to do?