My 91 year old mother with dementia and wheel chair bound has been in a nursing home since September 2014. I am constantly having to ask that her hair be combed and not left standing on her head like a cat's hair stands up when they are mad. I am also concerned about the shortage of help especially in the dining hall during mealtimes. Not only is there a shortage but new faces constantly in the dining hall. My mom eats very slowly and drops a lot of her food I am afraid she may not get all her nutrients. At first I tried to go over at least 3 times a week at dinner time to make sure she had help. The facility is 30 minutes away and with the increase in gas prices I can not go as often as I would like. Recently they changed both my mom's roommates and gave her new ones. I don't understand why they did this. Also, when mom entered the NH she had her own wheelchair with the leg extensions on it since, she has been in the NH they have removed the leg extensions. When my brother asked about them because he wanted to push my mom outside no one could find them. Also, because my mom has a history of constipation I would like for them to give her a probiotic which I would furnish. The first time I asked about this they said, "no". How can I address these issues without angering the staff?