My husband and I have caregiver burnout. I'm failing my job. We are both feeling over stressed and feel over burdened. Our health is going downhill both mentally and physically. My husband gave up his job to save mine so he could care for my mother during the night. We have 2 part-time caregivers come in during the week day (no weekends) hours vary - but don't exactly meet our needs.
We both are finding we have no energy nor patience any longer. My relationship has deteriorated with my mother and I have put a mental distance and now would like a physical distance between she and me. As that feels like a means to cope with this situation. Family (my 5 siblings) do not contribute or seem to care about their mother or us.
It is the mental part of her illness that is getting to us. And the fact we can no longer have a life and are entering our 60's. We still want to have some good years - and do things while we can. Being in servitude 24/7 and not being able to plan or do anything but take care of my mother has brought me to the end of my rope.
I have DPOA of my mother.
My mother is getting more and more difficult as each month goes on. She is unable to do any caring for herself and has been that way since she arrived.
Back in 2001 my mom made me DPOA because she was having open heart surgery. The document has just stood since then, but seems to have become my tar baby. My father died in 2001 and was the decision maker for everything and the financial source for my mother.