Not only do I NOT get any respect, I also am criticized, lectured to and yelled at for a myriad of things I can do nothing about! I have DPOA over my Dad's healthcare, as well as Trustee of his Trust. My brother is DPOA over financials. I always involve my stepmother in decisions, but in the end, it is what a) keeps Daddy happy (meds, no fear porn mail, validation therapy, etc), and b) whatever keeps him in his own home. His wish is b and mine is a & b! She is on board most of the time, but lately, she is losing it a little more and is becoming more difficult. Her children are aware and VERY supportive. They cringe just having to deal with her in general! None of the five wish to step up and help. I don't blame them!