Of the three siblings who cared for our father, only the Executor, who has the charge card connected to the Trust, charged gas and meal and other incidentals when he would give care time to Dad. For clarity, he had a 300 mile round trip, so that does involve some gas. He would drive up once per week. I had an 80 mile round trip, I cared for Dad 4-6 days per week, and never charged for gas or my food. It did not occur to me to ask for reimbursement from the Trust, I was just caring for dear Dad. When Dad was hospitalized and given 24-28 hours to live, the Executor drove up to be near Dad's hospital for the last days, getting a modest hotel room. He then charged his hotel and meal expenses for those final days to the Trust, more than $700. The only reason I knew this was because another sibling at the hotel told me, the Executor did not. The Executor is definitely not a poor person, he is retired from a high-paying job and living on a substantial pension and savings. Because this money was taken from the Trust, it is taken from our inheritance and becomes expenses shared by all of us siblings. This pains me for several reasons. First and foremost, it just would not occur to me to charge Dad's account for staying by him in his final days. It seems grossly unethical. Second, if I had not asked about the charges, I would not have been told. Third, it makes me wonder how much all of those gas-meal-incidental expenses added up to over three years of care. I have asked for 'transparency' on all those charges before the Executor distributes the funds, which has predictably caused a furor. The truth is, the money is not so much an issue to me as holding this person accountable for everything they charged to my father's account for which they held the checkbook. Holding the Executor accountable for what they charged on the account does not seem unreasonable to me, whether that person was wealthy or poor, its a matter of accountability and being forthcoming to the family. They are livid,that I asked for this, and expect they I should simply trust him and accept the final check distribution as it arrives. Opinions? Was I wrong to ask for this transparency?