Thank you all for your help with my questions about health proxy and POA. My father and his sister were born in America - when my father was 7 years old in 1925 his father died and so my grandmother came back to England and asked her sister could she mind her children for one year as she had a job in America and wanted to get things sorted in America - Her sister was only able to keep one of them and so my father was left in England and my Aunt went back to America with her mother. As things turned out - due to war etc.etc. my grandmother never got back to England for my dad which to a young child had a pretty bad effect on him and he did not trust many people in his life. As for my grandmother she remarried again - Over the years My dad travelled to America and my grandmother visited us in England. So the result was my dad thought his sister was having a great time and vice-versa. We met our aunt many times over the years but she was a loner and never married and lived with my grandmother till she died in 1993 and then my aunt lived alone and was a hoarder. She invested wisely and was and is wealthy - We would visit her and always write and call her. We would stay with our cousins when we went to see her in America. Then 12 months ago she rings me and asks me to go over to see her which I did and found her in good form and she told me she wanted to change her will - I stayed with my cousins while there and they informed me that she had several wills and the last will was to a cat sanctuary. While there my Aunt asked me to get an attorney and she would go and see this attorney and get a new will drawn up. I did'nt do anything because I felt it was wrong and I told her I would come back again to see her. A month later I got 2 letters from her begging me to get back to see her as she wanted to talk about my father and his life - I went back and my cousin and I went to visit my Aunt but she was all agitated and rambling on about changing her will again. I felt that If I had brought her to an attorney in America it would be undue influence.
So then she ended up in Hospital and is now in 24 hour care which is great as she has the money for good treatment - but this is where things started going wrong with our 3rd cousins - the day my aunt got sick they rang and told us that one of them had Health Proxy and the other had POA and that our Aunt was deemed mentally incompetent and for us not to go and visit her for a few weeks until all the forms were signed and sealed. They got a cleaning company to clear her apartment and go through all her documents and handed over her keys to her landlord - We were totally excluded from any medical decisions even though we are the next of kin. Our cousins will not even ring us or answer our e mails - they would be my aunts's 2nd cousins and we had a great relationship until our Aunt got sick. They told us nobody could go near her apartment yet they got cleaners in who went through every private letter my aunt had - So I rang cousins and asked to see Forms giving them these powers and have heard nothing from them. I travelled to see my aunt in her 24 hour care residence and she is happy enough but wants to get better and get home to her apartment - I feel it is sad the lives my dad and aunt had and I feel sad that the great friendship between our cousins has come to this. Any advice for me please.