I've been taking care of my aunt (89) for 5yrs. I was promised by her if I moved in and helped her, she would leave me her home if she should pass. she now has very little mobility, she's unable to do anything for herself including washing her face, hands or wiping her own butt. It has really put a toll on me and my fiancé, from the time we wake up until the time we FALL asleep 24 hours a day, everyday. She is dead wait and needs a nursing home. She's don't qualify for Medicaid because she owns her home, no one is willing to help us out. I would actually crawl up the stairs with her food to feed her not knowing I was on my last leg until I couldn't go anymore. blood level was a 4 and needed a blood transfusion and surgery. I never got paid for taking care of my aunt and paid all expenses food, electric, water, toiletries etc. even her medication and depends, laundry detergents and all, even put thousands of dollars in her attic making it a room for entertainment etc. Now she tells me that she don't want to transfer the house or sell it to me. Her stepdaughter wants to now step in and be power of attorney and handle everything, actually she wants all the glory without any dirty hands. She wants to know about the house, the bank accounts etc. and how she can manage these things. not only her other family members also but no one was or has been willing to even come offer to was her face or hands nevertheless change her diaper. Now she needs this nursing care and it seems I'm going to be out back because even if she decides to transfer it to me it will still be a lean on the house. I'm just so tired of everyone wanting to manage the finances but no one is willing to get their hands dirty. I have to now start looking for a place after I used all my finances here and on this major surgery I had. I've been in the hospital every month since April 2014 for a week or more each time. Dec. 18th has been the longest I've been home and still no one even offer to stay 24 hours her no one helps it's just been my fiancé and myself. we have no life and he is a blessing because any one else would have probably left me in this situation saying it's my family not his. what shall I do. I know I must find a home because she definitely needs 24 hour care. I'm just so discussed knowing her step daughter will end up with it all. It just makes me sick to the stomach on how much I've contributed over the years with 4 grandchildren. I just believe that God will provide. I don't even have nothing in writing and every time I asked for something the conversation gets ugly and still no one will help her out and she just don't appreciated what we do for her. I so tired. No one will help with a stair lift, a ramp a bed or NOTHING but willing to help with her finances. ugh.